One year ago today, I got married.
To be honest with you, growing up, all little girls have the dream that they'll one day meet the right person for them and live happily ever after. For me, though, having had a blunderous past... I often wondered if that would happen for me. Would I meet him? How would I know it was the right one if he asked? Would the man I wanted to marry actually want to marry me too? It was all a little too uncertain for me. Even at the beginning of our relationship, I was still uncertain about Ben in a way. I had been newly diagnosed with my issues, he was way younger, and I thought that maybe I was looking in the wrong direction just because I wanted to be looking.
Ben allowed me grace and time to figure out for myself that he was the supportive, caring man that I needed in my life. He forgave me of mistakes and bumps in the road, as I did him. Most importantly, he stuck around when I needed him. Something that most people don't know is that when I was diagnosed with my Alopecia and then decided to shave my head, I gave Ben an out. I told him that I would understand, that this wasn't what he signed up for... that he could walk away from and our engagement and I could be okay with that knowing he had the opportunity to be with someone who could be all of the things that a wife should be. With my skin conditions I have trouble cooking and cleaning, and caring for children will be hard. That day, Benjamin Duvall looked me square in the face and told me that he didn't care about any of my conditions, and that my friends, is a man.
In our first year of marriage, a lot of things have happened. We spent the first five of them living in different cities. We both graduated with new collegiate degrees. We moved into our first home (apartment) together. We've made friends, watched weddings and engagements, fought over money, gone on trips, bought a new car, started new jobs, and a number of other things. It's been a whirlwind of a ride, but a ride I wouldn't want to be taking with anyone else in this life.
I am truly blessed to have B in my life. He is my partner, my friend, my confidant. I can laugh with him, cry with him, and be at my sickest in front of him... none ever changing how loved he makes me feel.
I look forward to the next year, and the next one, and the next one. For now though, I will relish in this moment with my husband, thankful for the time already given - including this day that so many of you were gracious enough to be a part of. It was the best day of my life.
All photos courtesy of Byam Photography.
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